How long have you been natural?
I hit 4 months natural on December 18, but I transitioned for a year from August 22, 2009 – August 18, 2010.
What made you decide to go natural?
I just felt as though I didn’t need a relaxer anymore. It thinned out my hair significantly, and I regretted immediately after doing it. I was devastated when I washed my hair for the first time after getting it and didn’t get my curls back. Although I had extreme heat damage before my relaxer, I still wasn’t bone straight. I wanted my curls back. They are a part of who I am, and I love them now in their kinky-coily-wavy awesomeness more than ever.
While natural, what is the one biggest regret /mistake you made?
Multi-day wash-n-go. I have lots of different textures – mostly 3c/4a, but I have a tiny bit of 3b and some bone straight strands here and there. I had done a wash-n-go one day and kept merely refreshing it day after day with water, gelling my edges, and then slapping on my bonnet at night. When I went to trim my ends…. SSKs out the wazoo! My looser hair was fine but the 4a section at my crown was horrible. So from now on, I make sure I keep my hair stretched.
What is the craziest hairstyle or treatment you have done to your hair?
My freshman year in college, I got bangs cut in and bleached them golden blond. My hair had already been died jet black, mind you. People were calling me “Remy Ma.” I thought it was cute (I still kind of do… lol) but my hair HATED me! And then I bleached and colored on top over and over, which resulted in my having to cut my CBL hair (the longest it had ever been at that point) to an ear-length bob with a shaved nape. Luckily, the Rihanna cut was popular then, so people loved it. I missed my hair horribly after that and I don’t think I’ll be messing with any commercial colors ever again. I am trying to come to terms with my natural color.
What is your current relationship with your hair?
I love my hair. I don’t think I’ve ever loved my hair like this before. I was always trying to do things to it or change it around. Once I BC’ed, I fell in complete and utter love and I have yet to fall out. I don’t think I ever will. This is the first time in my life I haven’t wished for anyone else’s hair. While I want it to grow longer, if it never does, I would still love it. I can’t ask for anything better.
What is the trick or technique are you most thankful for finding out about?
Detangling under the shower stream with the Jilbere Shower Comb! This SAVED my hair during my transition when I had tangles at the demarcation line, and I still use it to this day.
What specific products can you not live without?
Donna Marie Miracurl Detangler & Leave-In Conditioner! This is hands-down my favorite product. I haven’t had a tangle since I began using it. I also love Fantasia IC Gel with Sparklites (the clear kind) – it works wonders at defining my curls and waves! V05 Conditioner for co-washes and silk peptide powder to my DCs. Finally: my Maxi-glide! I don’t straighten often, but when I do, it gets my hair perfectly straight and silky (even though I use too much heat protectant so I never can get it swangy… lol).
What advice would you give to someone considering going natural?
I would encourage anyone to go natural, but I would suggest that they strongly consider the pros and cons of being natural. I don’t think it should be a decision made on a whim or through social pressure or anything of the sort. It’s a personal decision and you have to be ready to make it. With that said, if she decides it is the right decision and wants to transition, hold out until you feel comfortable with your length! Too many people chop too soon, regret it, and re-relax. Take into account the shrinkage you will have. Finally, when you do chop, be prepared for the best, most freeing feeling you have ever experienced. It was one of the highlights of my life thus far.
Where can we find out more info about you and your hair?
I have a Youtube Channel mostly focused on hair. I started it a few months into my transition so there are a few transitioning styles, as well as my natural journey and a few product reviews. http://www.youtube.com/davisb88. I also co-author a blog with my line sister, which does not focus solely on hair but includes product reviews, recipes, video diaries, inspiration, etc. http://oneand20.blogspot.com.