His Confessions |▶ Danny (a Hispanic Man)

by West Parsons on December 15, 2010 · 2 comments

in his confessions

Name: Danny
Age: 25
Geographical Location: Ann Arbor, Michigan, by way of Miami, Florida.
Educational Background: Second Year Law student

How important is hair to overall attractiveness? Specifically, which styles (down vs. ponytail vs. bun) and lengths?

I don’t have just one type of girl in mind. I love women. I can find something attractive in any woman. With that in mind, I don’t look for a specific color, style, cut or the sort. The overall package does include hair, and it can range from the artsy, short hair, to the full-blown 300 strand extensions.

Do you feel there is a ‘Natural Hair Movement’ currently occurring? Why do you think so many women are going natural (i.e. Do you think most women want to make a statement or to just stop relaxing)?

I think the movement has been around, but it’s a woman’s choice to go with what society prescribes or do what they choose. The movement I see, however, is versatility. Women are shaking things up with a haircut, or change of color, and the change is always positive in my eyes.

Would you support your significant other if she decided to become natural?

I am currently dating someone who ditched the extensions and dyed, cut, and straightened her hair..and I’m loving every second of it. (its like I have a new girlfriend!)

Are you able to tell the difference in textures of hair? If your significant other were to go natural, would the texture of her hair affect your opinions on whether she should remain natural or not?

To a certain extent, yes I can tell the difference between natural hair and extensions, but I have never weighed it enough to have it as a “take-it-or-leave-it” requirement. Women are different, and I think that’s the main feature of attractiveness—having alternatives. Texture, whether corse or thin, can be made beautiful, regardless of what the standard is, and who’s the judge.

Do you like or dislike when your significant other changes her hair style often (i.e. wigs, weaves, braids, flat ironed, wash & go)?

As previously mentioned, I love change. It keeps a certain flair in a relationship, and it shows that your significant other is putting in the time to look as best as she can for herself and for me.

Does the amount of time your significant other spends on her hair prove to be problematic?

Not a problem time management wouldn’t fix. Don’t start fixing your hair at 11, when you know we need to be at the door by midnight, before the list closes 😉

How do you feel about the amount of money your significant other spends on her hair?

Is there a point where the amount of money is a source of conflict? Is it acceptable for her to spend as much as she chooses as long as she looks fly? Absolutely. People choose how to spend their money. Who am I to enforce my views over another persons’ view? I wouldn’t appreciate someone telling me what to do, so why would I attempt to? So long as the reciprocal is exercised as well. If I care to spend an exuberant amount of money on my wants and desires, so be it. It’s her prerogative, regardless of what motivates her.

Do you think your significant other should consider your opinion when making decisions about her hair?

Consideration is perhaps the least and most she should do. I’m blatantly honest with my girlfriends, and my constructive criticism (I hope) relays how I really feel.

Why do you think women care about a man’s opinion when it relates to hair?

We want to be loved. Everybody does. We want our significant other to appreciate things the way we do. People want support, and for many a decision on hair is a huge obstacle, eased by support.

How do you view women that wear weaves? Can you tell the difference between natural hair and a weave?

If properly maintained, a weave and natural hair are “almost” identical. I personally do not care for either over the other, because as I’ve said, I love a girl that’s versatile. It pleases me to see time and effort being put into a person’s look because it is a showing of confidence.


BeesOHoney December 16, 2010 at 2:27 pm

This is a nice article. I didn't like however the statement, "It's like a have a new girlfriend!" He seemed too excited about that one. What was wrong with the old girlfriend? I understood what he meant, he just should have paraphrased it differently. If it was me, I would've caught my boyfriend with the side eye. lol


Peggy November 7, 2013 at 9:11 pm

That man didn’t need to phrase anything differently. He said what was on his mind. Men can’t win with some women. Women want honesty then balk at it. What he said was on point!