Her Confessions |▶ westNDNbeauty

by West Parsons on April 9, 2012 · 4 comments

in her confessions

Photos featured in this post are circa 2004-2006

I hated my hair! — Being a broke college student was the only reason I was still natural.  At the time, I absolutely knew to get that swangin’, silky straight, and  flowing hair, the assistance of a hairdresser was a must and my pockets were not hearing anything of the such lol.  Quite frankly, in my mind, as soon as I graduated I was going to relax my hair.

My mom always told me I would learn to appreciate my hair and I am finally able to say she was right! Years later and I am still natural and now LOVING it!

As more ladies embark on their natural journey, initially many have the false sense that they are going to love their hair immediately — don’t believe the hype!  It took me over 20 years to genuinely appreciate my natural kinks and curls. A majority of that time I was wishing my hair behaved like Becky and Maria’s.  Yes — I had a false sense of my own being. I think the lack of products available geared towards my texture played a huge role.  Instead, I was left to dibble and dabble in products geared towards other ethnicities with long, flowing strands which lead me to believe my hair would be able to the same. Again — a false sense of my own being.

A majority of the hair-hating period in my life, I was a kid which can explain my false perceptions and expectations, but with all of these massive and gorgeous ‘fros out there, I know there are a few of you out there with a false perceptions as well. The more realistic we become in our expectations for our own hair, the less time we will spend possibly resenting what God has granted us with. Check out these articles:

This this video is about 2 years old, but it answers a compiled list of questions you may be interested to know about me and my hair journey.

see recent photos of my hair HERE

What was your experience in getting to know your hair?


Whitney October 14, 2010 at 3:07 am

I've only been natural for nine months, but I started to love and appreciate my natural texture two months into being natural. Now don't get me wrong, I have had my "what am I going to do with this hair?!" moments, but overall I'm lovin' it!

JAY October 14, 2010 at 8:26 pm

I went through the I hate my hair phase for about a good 9 months when I was pregnant with my 3rd son from February 2009 to November 2009. I did not want to get braids, and I could not afford to go to the salon so I did my own hair almost every other day. My hair was wild and out of control, and everyday I said to my husband, I hate my hair. He would always say, you are beautiful, it looks great. He even braided it up for me (one night before bed)…but I was stuck in a style rut, and needed direction, I don't know how I made through that one, but I did.

NewbieNatural August 14, 2011 at 10:44 pm

Thanks for the your open confession!! It helps to know that others have been or are at that phase of “I hate my hair!”

I’ve been transitioning for about 7-8 months and just get by with buns and ponytails. I enjoy co-washing and shampoo days, but I’m at a loss as to how to style, especially like how I might see it on another natural head on Youtube or elsewhere. I have to admit that I do need to manage my expectations and accept what my hair type/texture is and where/what my hair is at this point — but it is frustrating to me right now.

Becky! April 17, 2012 at 5:39 pm

Just had to comment, seeing that I am a black girl named BECKY :)! On my second attempt, after a year long transition, I’ve finally reached full natural status this past Saturday! I begged for my first relaxer in 5th grade, and watched tears well up in my mother’s eyes as she reluctantly gave in. It took me until college to fully appreciate natural hair on others, and then until several years after college to appreciate and accept it on myself. I am so glad that a healthier hair environment is growing amongst black women. I can only hope that with it, a healthier, overall self-image will follow.