Her Confessions |▶ Ebony

by West Parsons on October 18, 2012 · 6 comments

in her confessions

How long have you been natural?
It will be 8 years in February!

What made you decide to go natural?
In 1998, I met someone in the beginning of my sophomore year in college that was natural already. She was a freshman, and had already been natural for at least a year. That impressed me. Her overall style and confidence was intriguing! In all of her glory, she inspired me. It made me wonder why I was still relaxing my hair, and it ignited the “natural flame” within. The following year, I decided to transition for a few months and then I did the big chop. Sadly, I only lasted a year before I relaxed again, but the seed had still been planted.

While natural, what is the one biggest regret /mistake you made?
The biggest regret I had was relaxing my hair again in 2001. I regretted it immediately. I wish I had put in the work to learn how to care for it in it’s natural state.

What is the craziest hairstyle or treatment you have done to your hair?
I’m pretty practical when it comes to my hair. The craziest hairstyles in “Ebony land” is a fro-hawk or a huge afro. LOL!

What is your current relationship with your hair?
It’s very harmonious. We have an understanding. I treat my hair well, and my hair cooperates in return. 🙂

What is the trick or technique are you most thankful for finding out about?
I’m most thankful that I’ve learned about pre-treating/pre-pooing. I always apply coconut oil to my hair prior to shampooing it, and let it penetrate for at least 45 minutes (overnight would be ideal). This didn’t start until about my 3rd year being natural. It keeps my hair ultra hydrated until I co-wash. Hydration = less breakage. 🙂

What specific products can you not live without?
I cannot live without coconut oil, and my special oil blend that I use for weekly scalp massages. You can find it at www.cultchure.bigcartel.com

What advice would you give to someone considering going natural?
Please know that it’s a process. Become busy with things other than worrying about hair growth. Challenge yourself to learn a new style once a month. It will grow as long as you take care of it. Also, do your best to know your hair like you know yourself. Find out your hair’s characteristics no matter what the strands look like. For example, is it coarse, fine, medium, thick, thin, highly porous…low to no porosity? That will all determine how you find the best products and styling options for your hair. With all the categorizing (hair typing, etc.) it can become pretty discouraging. Realize that your hair is just as individual as YOU, and it may not behave the same as the next curlfriend’s!

Where can we find out more info about you and your hair?
You can find me on Instagram and YouTube. I’m eclark6 — SUBSCRIBE!

Ebony’s FOTKI album has also been previously featured on this blog. From the NAV BAR > INSPIRATION > FLY NATURAL FOTKI ALBUMS


AmeeraNakisha October 18, 2012 at 5:47 pm

Wow her hair is awesome and looks so full all the way down to the ends!

nikki w October 18, 2012 at 10:09 pm

My relationship with my hair is harmonious. Love. So working my way to that state, one day at a time.

KayJay at Refined & Polished October 19, 2012 at 2:13 pm

Yessss! She has gorgeous hair. Love looking at her pics on IG.

nika October 19, 2012 at 11:33 pm

She told the truth. She has given great advice.

Shanay October 19, 2012 at 11:51 pm

Great job on your hair journey.

Lexii November 19, 2012 at 8:15 am

Hey my name is Alexandra and i’m 16.
I decided to go natural on May 1st 2012.
I ADORE your hair !! You’re my row model.
But one problem i don’t think my hair is as thick as yours to do the “From straight to Curly” hairstyle.
Any suggestions :(?